There’s One Thing No One Can Ever Prevent

You can prevent an automobile accident by being attentive, driving the speed limit and keeping up with regular car maintenance such as tires, oil change, etc.

You can prevent certain diseases by eating a healthy diet and regular exercise.

You can prevent being the victim of a scam artist by practicing due diligence.


…there’s one thing in life none of us can escape…our eventual death.

The other day, I loaded the kids in the car to run a couple of errands. As I reversed out of the driveway, we saw our neighbor working out in his garage as he always did. We all waved and continued on our way.

It took about 20 minutes to stop by the bank as well as grab a quick bite to eat. As I’m pulling in the driveway, I see the neighbor’s 4 y/o son, *Jack and 6 y/o daughter, *Sara.

I noticed that their mom’s car was gone but their dad’s car was in the driveway.

Me: Hey Jack, where’s your mom?

Jack: At work. My dad is sick, he’s lying on the floor.

Little did this poor young man know, his father was dead. A seemingly healthy, 30 something year old man who worked out regularly. Just. Dropped. Dead.

A man who was a mentor to all the kids in the neighborhood. Kids loved hanging out at his house because he gave them popsicles and played kick ball in our cul-de-sac. He was genuinely interested in each person he encountered and was extremely friendly and kind to everyone. Heck, my teen had just asked him the previous day if he could use him as a reference on his military application.

But no amount of fitness or safe driving could prevent him from drawing his last breath, something that will eventually happen to each of us.

As I sit in my living room, right next door to his grieving wife and kids, I can’t help but wonder what they would have done had they known that would be the last time they would see him alive?

I also ponder, in a world so full of bad, why is it that the good ones die young?

These are questions I will never know the answer to.

So while I contemplate ways to be there for his family, there’s one thing that I do know. I am still here. My family is still here. At this moment, we still have each other. This is called a blessing.

Safety and self-defense are very important to me and always will be. I don’t live by the philosophy that we might as well live risky because we’re all going to die anyway. That’s foolish thinking to me.

I will continue to be a good steward of my life until the time comes when that is no longer possible. I think you should too. That is, of course, if you value life.

Do you have any suggestions on how to comfort a grieving widow and kids? 

*The names of the kids have been changed


7 thoughts on “There’s One Thing No One Can Ever Prevent

  1. I felt your pain in-between your words and I had hoped that it was an old person. How sad to lose one so young and in his prime 🙁 This is really a hard road to travel for his family. The grief can be overwhelming, but grieve they must. It should not be swept under the carpet in order to be strong. If they are a church going family this is when their Christian community, families and friends really come in to rally around them. They have to hear words of healing, motivational and prayerful words whilst they navigate this path. If you check the book store or on line there are lots of books and articles that helps a grieving one. The journey is day by day. Please share with them and encourage them. It is sad indeed, that is why we have to strive to make the most of our time here in a positive way. I am happy that he was a good man.

    1. Thank you Jacqueline, I appreciate your words of encouragement and advice. This was a tremendous loss for our whole community so neighbors have been doing a great job of helping to support this family. But I’m sure it’s going to take a while for them to adapt to their new normal, so to speak, so we just need to be ready to offer support for the long haul.

      1. Yes. It takes a while to sink in and it is a rough journey, so it will be nice for them to have supportive people around. My dad passed 2 years ago, yet I think of him everyday and my mum cannot make a complete sentence without mentioning him. Sometimes, the pain seems easier and there are days that it is very sharp. They will experience a lot of ups and downs and this is a major upheaval, so patience with them will go quite a long way. God bless you guys.

  2. Tasha, my heart beats heavy for your neighbors and your family. This is definitely a ‘time to mourn’ with those who have this heavy burden to bear. I know as you ask God what to do, He will tell you how to lift their load in small and simple ways that only you will be able to do; because of the woman you are. Carrie, A Mother’s Shadow

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