You can prevent an automobile accident by being attentive, driving the speed limit and keeping up with regular car maintenance such as tires, oil change, etc.
You can prevent certain diseases by eating a healthy diet and regular exercise.
You can prevent being the victim of a scam artist by practicing due diligence.
…there’s one thing in life none of us can escape…our eventual death.
The other day, I loaded the kids in the car to run a couple of errands. As I reversed out of the driveway, we saw our neighbor working out in his garage as he always did. We all waved and continued on our way.
It took about 20 minutes to stop by the bank as well as grab a quick bite to eat. As I’m pulling in the driveway, I see the neighbor’s 4 y/o son, *Jack and 6 y/o daughter, *Sara.
I noticed that their mom’s car was gone but their dad’s car was in the driveway.
Me: Hey Jack, where’s your mom?
Jack: At work. My dad is sick, he’s lying on the floor.
Little did this poor young man know, his father was dead. A seemingly healthy, 30 something year old man who worked out regularly. Just. Dropped. Dead.
A man who was a mentor to all the kids in the neighborhood. Kids loved hanging out at his house because he gave them popsicles and played kick ball in our cul-de-sac. He was genuinely interested in each person he encountered and was extremely friendly and kind to everyone. Heck, my teen had just asked him the previous day if he could use him as a reference on his military application.
But no amount of fitness or safe driving could prevent him from drawing his last breath, something that will eventually happen to each of us.
As I sit in my living room, right next door to his grieving wife and kids, I can’t help but wonder what they would have done had they known that would be the last time they would see him alive?
I also ponder, in a world so full of bad, why is it that the good ones die young?
These are questions I will never know the answer to.
So while I contemplate ways to be there for his family, there’s one thing that I do know. I am still here. My family is still here. At this moment, we still have each other. This is called a blessing.
Safety and self-defense are very important to me and always will be. I don’t live by the philosophy that we might as well live risky because we’re all going to die anyway. That’s foolish thinking to me.
I will continue to be a good steward of my life until the time comes when that is no longer possible. I think you should too. That is, of course, if you value life.
Do you have any suggestions on how to comfort a grieving widow and kids?
*The names of the kids have been changed